Sunday, July 27, 2008

Baby Mama

So, I'm kind of excited at the thought of being a surrogate for my sister. We were talking about it the other day, and all I kept saying was "So, I get to have 9 months (give or take) of people all excited because I'm pregnant. You KNOW how everyone loves a pregnant woman! And then to top it off I'm sure I'll get extra attention when I mention that I'm not carrying my babies, but my sisters! because she is going through cancer treatments. Then I get paid time off of work before the baby/babies are born. Then I get 8 weeks paid time off after they are born, with NO NEWBORN BABY! And a big fat bottle of percocet! Can one girl be so lucky? DH asked me where he could sign up!


As for my sister, she met with the people at Sloan-Kettering in NYC this week, and really liked the oncologist. So I think she will be going with them. Right now, she is really waiting for the results of the BRACAnalysis. The BRACAnalysis test detects mutations in the BRCA1 and BRCA2 genes. Mutations in these genes have been determined to predispose individuals to hereditary breast and ovarian cancer. So I am thinking if they find the mutations, it may push her towards doing the single or double mastectomy. If it is not found, she may just do the lumpectomy and radiation. But it seems like regardless of these choices she makes, she will have to go through chemo. Which I think for all of us is the scariest part.

Once she makes her decision, we (her DH and her, me and my DH) will meet with our RE and discuss what we are going to do, how we get synced up, and what my part in all this is. I don't know anything about surrogacy, so I have no idea how much of the protocal I need to do. I know I'll have to do the PIO shots, but besides that, I don't know if they stim me. Anyone know anything about surrogacy?

It's funny, because so many people have said to me what an amazing sister I must be, and I just don't feel that way. I feel like it's nothing. It's my body for 9 months, to give my sister a lifetime of happiness. She would do it for me in a heartbeat. I just don't feel like I'm doing anything special. It's my sister. She's my best friend, and all I want is for her to be healthy and happy.

That being said, I'm going for my first ever mammogram tomorrow, and I'm kinda freaked. I've never had one, and with everything going on, I'm certainly a bit scared. But I've always been one to say, if there is something to be found, find it sooner. I don't want to not know, because then it's just going to get worse.

I'll keep you all updated.
Caba

5 comments:

xavier2001 said...

Ha! That post cracked me up, especially the percocet bit, that is great stuff!! Are you doing a FET or fresh transsfer with your sister? If her embies are already frozen then your protocol won't be any different than a typical FET. If you are doing fresh they will do something to 'sync' you, usually bcp's, and then you will do a FET preparation (estrogen and progesterone to thicken your lining) at the same time she is stimming, then after her ER they transfer the embies to you. At least thats how I think it works ;)

Good luck, I am so excited to see this process unfold!!

SMiLeD said...

Oh and I wanted to add you better get to that twin forum venting soon, you've piqued my curiousity ;) ;)

Aimee said...

YOU ROCK! WHAT YOUR ARE DOING FOR YOUR SIS IS SUCH A WONDERFUL & SPECIAL THING TO DO! THAN ON TOP OF THAT...YOU GET MAJOR TIME OFF AND SOME NICE PAIN MEDS! ;-)

I THINK IT WOULD BE A GOOD TO THING IF YOU JOINED THE SURROGACY FORUM ON FERTILETHOUGHTS. MIGHT HELP YOU GET A BETTER UNDERSTANDING?

http://www3.fertilethoughts.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=61

GOOD LUCK ON YOUR MAMMOGRAM!!!

Intending To Be Parents said...

Wow, you have quite a story going on here! It's wonderful what you're offering to do for your sister! I hope that everything is smooth sailing from here out - your sister definitely deserves things to work out after all of this happening to her and you deserve a perfect experience for volunteering to undertake this!
And thank you for your comment on my blog! I'm glad you found it and I hope I continue to have some good stuff to blog about :) We definitely lucked out with our awesome surro-family!

Feel free to E-mail if there are any questions you have that I might be able to answer!

I hope your mammogram goes perfect tomorrow and everything is crystal clear!

Just Me. said...

What an amazing story this is! To go to such extent for your sister is just awesome!!!